Friday, February 15, 2008

Out of my reach...

Valentango is going on this weekend. I cannot go. For many reasons, like, hum, let me think... money and time? Yep those are the usual suspects. There is also not wanting to go away for a tango weekend on the Valentines weekend. Even though it is a commercial pseudo-holiday... Still, I cannot bring my self to leave my partner (who does not dance tango) alone.
Adjusting to each other is important in life and in tango. Being perceptive, being sensitive to what your mirror image might feel, think, want is key to a great life and a great tanda together. He does not know it but he has been dancing tango with me for a loooong time:)
So Valentango is out of my reach this year. What is in my reach is a happy life, full of understanding, love, compromise... And still I get a lot of tango, because I am lucky to have a partner, who does not dance tango, but who appreciates my passion for it.:)

6 comments:

  1. Danzarin,
    How long have you guys been together? As another long-term (10+ years), "mixed" (I dance, he does NOT) relationship, I truly appreciate (and admire) what it takes to make it work.

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  2. We have been together for over 5 years now:) I feel very lucky to have him in my life.

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  3. When you say, "He does not know it buy he has been dancing tango with me for a looong time.." it touches my heart to hear it. You demonstrate that you know that tango is a feeling, a way of being, as much as a dance.

    We are also not at Valentango, not driving the three hours plus to get there. Life, work, love, and family are the priorities. We will go over to a milonga in the city tonight, it will be a little sparse because so many people are down in Portland. But we are happy, and we have the dance floor to ourselves.
    And even though we both dance, our learning paths have been so different, one of learning while the other languishes in depair, and then we trade places. We have learned. We are doing tango even when we don't dance.

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  4. Danzarin,

    I'm glad to know that you are making a "mixed" relationship work (leave it to Johanna to describe it perfectly). I started tango dancing after I met The Boy, and bless his heart, he trusted me and took a leap of faith. It hasn't always been a bed of roses, but we work it out.

    It makes me feel good to know that there are other successful relationships where tango and non-tango lives can live together and make things work.

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  5. oh, this is a beautiful post! (i am slowly catching up with everyone today :)

    abrazo...

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